After losing my Mum I felt like I had to grow up far more quickly than I needed too, in order to adapt to the new changes. Although my Dad and I became extremely close after my Mum’s passing, losing her left a huge hole in my life and I felt myself becoming more and more independent.
Don’t get me wrong, I went on plenty of nights out and drank farrrr too much. However, I felt like I was growing up far more quickly than others around me. I left to a new flat in the city centre at 19 and became almost fully independent from then on.. ish.
I guess with everything I do, (2 jobs, University and a business) I do feel like I’m 21 going on 35 (not saying that’s old.) You won’t see me drink crazy amounts or out until 5am anymore because that’s not really me. For a time I started to feel really isolated from other people my own age because I never felt like I fitted in. Was I doing everything too quickly and were my prioritise different?
Well the answer to that.. is no.. I wasn’t doing things too quickly and yes my prioritise were indeed different but THIS IS OKAY.
It’s OKAY to do things out of the ordinary and follow what you want to do. Growing up, I thought people recording themselves blogging was strange and now here I am on channel 5 and blogging away..
I feel like the “norm” is to go to University, get a good job and there you are.. that’s it. But if you’re like me.. you’re far from normal, want to do really interesting things and everything out of the ordinary… that is also OKAY.
If you don’t want to go to University and want to pursue you’re own things in life.. THAT’S OKAY. Do things how you want to do them and don’t be scared to make changes.
After my Mum’s passing I really realised that life is so short. Starting to not care what people think is a long journey but I feel like I’m starting to get there.
Never be afraid to stand out from the crowd and be different. It’s the best thing I ever did. I am so grateful to my family for allowing me to become independent and find myself my own way.
Don’t be afraid of growing up too quickly, there is no “normal” in life, we all have different paths.
“Invest in yourself, expect nothing from no one, and be willing to work for everything.”